How to Get Along

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Scripture references · 11 citations

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Repeated openers: “i mean” (6), “i don't” (6), “so how” (5), “how we” (4), “we pray” (3), “this is” (3)

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1. Conclusion

   It is our desire for you to grow as a result of the resources we provide here.

2. Example

   We pray that this blesses you today as you seek to know him more. [MUSIC] Things were simple in the world, like when we used flip phones.

3. Contrast ×2

   I mean, you could try to use the internet, but it costs you $239 a minute.

4. Cause

   Because why not?

5. Contrast ×2

   Flip phones, yeah, they were really cool, but these new phones can do anything.

6. Condition

   And even if you don't believe in the Bible or the distance of God, you can still read these books and think, hey, this is some helpful device.

7. Contrast

   But when you read these books, over and over and over again and that's that words have power.

8. Condition

   And as I read, see if you can pick up the double function that words have.

9. Contrast ×3

   A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

10. Condition ×2

    So for example, if you're walking down the halls of faith church and you have your coffee in your hand your old cuts you off and you spill coffee.

11. Cause

    It's difficult to do, because we tend to want to match the other person's tone, right?

12. Condition

    If you raise your voice, I'll raise my voice.

13. Contrast ×2

    But first one is saying, don't match their tone.

14. Cause

    I think it's because the second option is so much easier.

15. Contrast ×2

    The mental answer requires thought and self-control and multiple words.

16. Cause

    He says, "A good man brings good things "out of the good stored up in his heart." And an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up of this verse hits home for me big time because I grew up in a Brazilian home and if you know anything about Brazilians you'll know one thing many of us are just loud okay when we talk we talk with by shung okay that's who we are and Melinda my wife when when we were dating she would visit our family and she knows nothing of Portuguese right she would visit us and we'll be in mid conversation mid discussion and we're talking loudly and we're getting into of those faces and yelling over each other, interrupting and she's panicking.

17. Contrast

    But the danger comes in I'm not just being loud.

18. Cause

    I'm actually being harsh because there's something happening in here in my heart.

19. Contrast

    Let's read verse two. tongue of the wise, a dorn's knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.

20. Cause

    Because according to this verse, if we don't, we will gush out folly, or in other words, we words.

21. Contrast ×2

    It says, "The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil." The word for gush out in Hebrew is yabi.

22. Cause

    And when you discover something that they're interested in, hone in on that and ask them questions about whatever that is, because now you're using your words to build up the relationship.

23. Condition

    And if there's someone in their group I coach them to kindly cut it short and allow other people to speak.

24. Cause

    Because what happens when you keep going and going?

25. Contrast

    Instead, think before you speak.

26. Condition

    Okay, so no matter how beautifully someone can sing or no matter how amazing the lyrics of that song are, if that person wakes you up before your alarm clock goes off, it's not going to feel like God is blessing you.

27. Contrast ×2

    It's going to feel like a curse, not just for that moment but for the rest of and James 1 19.

28. Cause

    I've learned that being quick to listen and so to speak is much more challenging because if you listen to them and actually try to understand their opinion, understand who they are, you may not have a quick response. good, remarkable, witty comeback.

29. Contrast ×5

    But at the end of the conversation, you understand them a little bit more.

30. Cause

    I wouldn't because yeah, maybe one or two screws.

31. Contrast ×2

    They're not gonna really make a difference, but if you continue to pull these screws out, eventually the roller coaster will fail.

32. Condition ×2

    Like that roller coaster, if you remove enough screws, someone will eventually get crushed.

33. Cause

    Can I just say, if you went through that, can I just say I'm sorry that you went through that because I know what that's like.

34. Conclusion

    And that's why it's so important for us to surround ourselves with people who speak life into us and create barriers from people who use their tongue to crush our spirit. verse half of verse four look like.

35. Example

    What is it like when you talk to someone with a healing tongue that speaks life?

36. Contrast ×4

    Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.

37. Conclusion

    This message might feel like a self-help book. remove God from it completely and still say this is some good advice but I could have heard this somewhere else and That's why I skipped verse 3 because this is where I want to land Because at the end of the day if you ignore this message and you don't really care about how you use your words Because hey I have close friends.

38. Condition

    If our words reflects what is in our heart, then technically speaking, God can judge us I invite you to turn with me to Matthew 12, 'cause Jesus sends the same exact point.

39. Contrast

    We read Luke already, but this is a longer passage I wanna point out.

40. Cause

    It's not just about cleaning up our language when we become Christians, because that's just muscle memory.

41. Condition ×2

    If only we remembered the power in our words If only we remember the power in our words before opening up our mouths.

42. Contrast

    Paul says as Ephesians 4, 29, do not let any unwholesome talk or any worthless or rotten come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs that it may benefit those who listen how we use our words can build or break relationship, relationship.

43. Condition

    If we ignore this, we don't really care.

44. Cause

    Because if our words are harsh, foolish, and destructive, what will happen when we start talking to this person about Jesus?

45. Contrast ×2

    And just a side note, I know I've been spending these 25 minutes talking about how important words are and what we should say and not say, but it's just as important to choose what you listen to.

46. Condition

    If you're listening to words that bring on guilt and shame and condemnation in your life, then you need to unplug from whatever or whoever that is.

47. Contrast

    But if you're listening to words that bring life and inspiration and healing, then lean in and enjoy the fruit of that.

48. Condition ×2

    If there's anger in there, it will show up in our words.

49. Contrast

    So, church, let's listen to Jesus and pay close attention to what's really happening when we lash out, when we speak and hate, when we use our words to break relationships. someone, but God's will is for us to use our words to build relationships even with those who disagree with us.

50. Cause

    Because if we're honest we can say that we don't really know.

51. Contrast

    Your word has the power to save, heal, and restore, but right now in this moment as a church, we confess that the words we use don't always reflect how you speak to us.

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